Feel The Fear and Do It Anyways.

Hello lovelies.

How have you been? I have been crazy busy, but in the best way possible. I’m working on this series for September all about amazing women, mostly local but with a few non-locals mixed in. It’s a stressful, nerve-wracking experience putting this together, but I’m learning to just lean into the fear. That’s been my big theme for June; if I’m afraid to do it, I’m going to do it.

Why? To break down barriers I’ve created for myself, and to make everything I do seem a little less scary. 

I don’t know where this idea came from, and obviously I am doing this within reason. I’m not jumping off random buildings or buying myself a spider farm, BUT I did email fifteen women requesting interviews. I bought a bikini. I allowed someone to take a photo of me instead of taking a selfie. Baby steps, but steps nonetheless.

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Why do we create these walls to try and keep out the things we are afraid of? Is it because we fear rejection? The idea of being vulnerable? Because fun fact; those things will probably sneak in anyways, so you’re better off taking more shots at the things that scare you because things will go right WAY more times than you anticipated they would. Trust me, I thought all fifteen of those women would say no or ignore my emails.

So hey, maybe try something a little scary this week.

Doesn’t have to be crazy, just has to get you one step outside of your comfort zone. 

What is something you are afraid to do? Let me know in a comment below so I can support you!

Talk to you next time.

Katie 

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Don’t Be Afraid To Dream, Girl

“It’s alright to feel scared, but it doesn’t mean you don’t do it.” – Clara Villarosa 

Hello lovelies.

Last Thursday I had the pleasure of taking the Rhyze bus to a screening of Dream, Girl, a documentary telling the stories of five female entrepreneurs. It was an evening filled with lots of laughs and even more inspiration, and I want to share some of it with you today. Because, as we all know, inspirational community events turn me into a pile of mush.

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First of all, let me say a huge thanks to The Rhyze Project for putting this together, and to Faith for being my movie buddy for the night. The bus ride there was awesome because Faith and I just talked about life, boy drama, and blog drama (both equally important). Upon arrival in Palmerston, we picked up our popcorn and candy. But do you want to hear the best part? There was wine. But not just ANY wine! My favorite kind, so clearly it was meant to be. With a glass of wine in hand, and the two new friends we had just made, we headed into the theatre to see Dream, Girl.

Enough about me though, let’s talk about the movie. Dream, Girl (directed by Erin Bagwell) is a documentary about female entrepreneurs and shares the stories of several incredible women. The first thing I loved about the film was how all the interview subjects varied in age, ranging from women in their 20’s to women in their 80’s. In fact, the quote at the beginning of this post is from Clara Villarosa, one of the entrepreneurs interviewed in the film. Clara is a co-founder of Villarosa Media, a publishing company specializing in publishing the work of African-American authors. Clara’s story was one of my favorites, because she was filled with so much spunk and wisdom. Every single woman involved in the film had their own unique story and they shared it with such passion. Dream, Girl makes you feel like you are just talking about your big dreams over coffee with a friend, a friend who is encouraging you to dream big. Oh, and did I mention it was an entirely female crew? Please, go see this movie.

Dream, Girl leaves you with a sense of empowerment that you may not have walked in to the theatre with. And leaves you asking yourself “Why not me? Why not now?” because knowing there is an entire support system of women behind you makes taking the leap a little less scary. Even in the tiny theater of Palmerston, the camaraderie between all of us as we watched this documentary was certainly there, and I was definitely rooting for every woman there (on screen and off screen). When women support other women, incredible things can happen. We are half the population, after all.

Have you seen Dream, Girl? Do you plan to? Let me know in a comment below or you can tweet at me!

I hope you all have an amazing week, and I will talk to you soon.

Katie

What To Do When You Feel Unmotivated

“Don’t half-ass two things, whole-ass one thing.”
– Ron Swanson

Hello lovelies!

In my last post I talked about how I am an extremely motivated person, which gets in the way of my ability to relax. But how do I stay so motivated? How do I find the effort to get up and work on my side hustle when I am exhausted from my full time job? In this post I will talk about the steps I take to keep my motivation from wavering, even on the toughest of days.

Create an ‘Impossible List’

So I definitely stole this idea from Josh (check out his blog Short On Beer HERE) but I’m completely obsessed with it. The concept of a bucket list is super morbid to me and those can be SO specific. What I love about an ‘impossible list’ is instead of being a list of dreams, it is a list of goals you want to complete. Making them more realistic to you and then allowing you to break those big goals down into smaller steps that will help you to cross it off your list.

What are a few things on my ‘Impossible List’?

  • Unlock the Toronto YouTube Space
  • Attend San Diego Comic Con
  • Go on a yoga/meditation retreat
  • Learn how to play the guitar

All manageable, but will take some time and work. Looking at this list from time to time keeps me on track and motivated to take on the day-to-day tasks to achieve these goals.

Surround Yourself With Like-Minded People

If you tell your friends about an idea you have (an idea you think it is just the greatest things since sliced bread), and they respond with “that’s stupid” or “why would you do that?” on repetitive occasions, it may be time to surround yourself with more positivity. Especially when it comes to your work. I can not tell you how many ideas I threw away because I was afraid people would think it was silly, or make fun of me if it failed.

By creating a support system of motivated and like-minded individuals, you put yourself in a position where you can share your ideas freely and be supported or offered constructive criticism. In one of Sawyer Hartman’s most recent videos, he said that one of the best compliments he every received was, after showing a short film of his to a friend, the friend said “you can do better”. Not taking away from his hard work, but reminding him that he was capable of way more, so why was he not doing that? Those are the kind of people you want to be around. People who believe in you and your work so much, that they won’t settle for anything less. And want to help you achieve the highest level of AWESOME you possibly can.

And if you’re going ‘well damn, where do I find those people’? Hi, hello, yes, I am a person right here. Tweet at me, tell me what you’re working on, and I will cheer you on!

Keep Your Mental and Physical Health Intact

Listen, you won’t want to get ANYTHING done if you feel like crap. If you are so focused on the hustle that you forget proper sleep/diet/exercise, your work will suffer. End of story. In order to put out the best quality work, you have to make your health a priority. I’m not saying you have to shut your laptop right now and run a marathon (actually, I very highly recommend against that…because running sucks…I’m just looking out for you here…) but get out of your chair and do some stretches! Walk to the kitchen and get yourself a glass of water, take a walk around the block, blast the Lion King soundtrack and dance around like a madman/woman! Whatever it is that gets you up and moving, go do it!

In addition to this, get some sleep. This is the pot calling the kettle black, because I really don’t sleep much. But I am working on it! Other ways to keep your mental health in check? Writing in a journal, meditation, or yoga (I’m actually doing a 30 day yoga challenge right now, join me!). I guarantee that if you put some effort into your health, motivation and creativity will come to you. Not only that, but you will have the energy to turn that motivation into BETTER work. That seems like a pretty solid guarantee.

You can take my word on this one, I ate spinach today.

I also ate chicken nuggets, but LET’S FOCUS ON THE SPINACH.

And there you have it, three tips on how to keep yourself motivated! Let me know how YOU stay motivated in a comment below. If you do end up creating an impossible list of your own, tweet one item of it to me! I’d love to hear what one of your big goals is and help you get there! I’ve also listed a few extra resources below to give you that extra little boost of motivation, check them out!

You got this!

Katie